WHY IT IS BETTER NOT TO EXPECT ANYTHING'Such a promising boy'- anybody who has heard this said about them can already guess what lies behind the personal potential trap: a lifetime of striving to fulfil the promise.
It is the curse of talented people 'He just needs to find out what he really wants' people to say. His shortcomings are over looked and his successes admired for the ease with which they are achieved. To begin with he profits from this attractive yet fatal combination of talent and charisma. That is until the stupid ones become hard working. Then he has to watch from sidelines as he is overtaken by precisely those people who had once enviously looked up to him.
The personal potential trap can be precisely traced, in the model are three curves:
- My expectations of myself
- Other peoples expectations of me
- My actual achievements
The trap opens as soon as others expectations of you and your actual achievement diverge too much. Normally a talented person cruises along until a crisis point is reached. The way to go is to promise 80 and to deliver 120.
Are you prepared to think less of yourself than what others expect of you?
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