We cannot 'grasp' our own personality, but we can be aware of what part of our personality we reveal to the outside world. The Johnari window ('Johnari ' is derived from the first syllables of the first names of its inventors, John Luft and Harry Ingham) is one of the most interesting models for describing human interaction a four 'paned' window' divides personal awareness into four different types:
A. This quadrant describes characteristics and experiences that we are aware of ourselves and that we like to tell others about
B. This 'hidden' quadrant describes things that we know about ourselves but chose not reveal to others. It decreases in size the more we build up trusting relationship with others.
C. There are things that we do not know about ourselves but others can see clearly. And there are things that we think we are expressing clearly, but which others interpret completely differently. In tis quadrant, feedback can be enlightening but also hurtful.
D. There are aspects of ourselves that are hidden from ourselves as well as others. We are more complex and multifaceted than we think. From time to time something unknown rises to the surface from our unconscious- for example in a dream.
Choose adjectives ( fun, unreliable, etc) that you describe you well. Then the others ( friends, colleagues) chose adjectives to describe you. The adjectives are then entered in the appropriate panes of the window.
Try this exercise with your partner. Are there things about your partner that you wished you have never discovered? and what do you wish you didn't know about yourself?
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